Understanding couples work
The same argument is rarely about what it seems.
Most couples do not come because of one isolated disagreement. They come because the same conversation keeps ending the same way, because something happened that is difficult to move past, or because the closeness they once felt has quietly gone missing.
Both of you can bring the whole story. Jean-Ann slows the interaction down enough for each person to be heard and for the pattern underneath the argument to become clearer. The purpose is not to choose a winner. It is to understand what is happening between you and what repair requires.
Most repeating fights are protecting a truth that has not yet felt safe to say aloud.